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Maureen was a very outgoing person, and she didn’t hold back what she thought – that didn’t make her popular everywhere, but I wouldn’t have had her any other way. The thing that everyone remembers her for, though, was how loving, kind and caring she was, and she loved helping people, getting to know them, and working with them face to face.
Both of our jobs were quite demanding, so in our free time, we tended to relax, visiting different pubs, and meeting friends and family, or visiting different places in the UK, exploring the history of those places, as that was an interest of mine.
After Maureen died, the first few months were very difficult. I would come home and there’d be nobody there – I’d be met with silence. A lot of the time I would put the radio on in every room just so there was noise – nothing particularly meaningful, just background noise to fill the gap that she’d left.
After she died, slowly, over time, I learnt to live life on my own, getting back on track, settling into a new routine. There were lots of feelings and emotions to explore, but they didn’t all come flooding out. My counsellor was able to draw them out in an order that made sense and helped me to work out why I was experiencing them, not feeling guilty for feeling them. There’s no doubt counselling helped me to adapt to life on my own, but it’s not a quick process, and there are still things I notice.
