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Emily’s story: Walking with purpose

Emily lost both her mum and her best friend in close succession to each other in 2019. The two were significant figures in her life, and they all shared an enthusiasm for walking. Here, Emily shares her story, explaining what walking means to her, and why she is motivated to complete Moonlight Walk this June…

emily on a walk with friends
emily enjoying a beer on a walk

The significance of walking

Once a fortnight after work, Emily and Sarah – her best friend of 15 years – would set off on an evening walk together, sharing moments of laughter and often enjoying a glass of wine along the way. “We would put our trainers on and put the world to rights for an hour or so. It would be our release at the end of the week. It was just such a laugh,” Emily shared.

In 2017, Sarah was diagnosed with breast cancer, and their walks slowly came to an end, which Emily found really hard. “I miss that more than anything else. I just want her to come and knock on my door and say, ‘come on, let’s go,’” she said.

An unexpected turn

A year later, Sarah was given the devastating news that the cancer had spread to her brain and there wasn’t anything that could be done to cure it. Then, the unthinkable happened, and Emily herself was also diagnosed with breast cancer. “Sarah was really poorly in the final months of her life. It was brutal. She was only in her mid-forties when she died, no age at all,” Emily explained.

“She had a lovely big room at the end of the Hospice which overlooked the garden, and this is where she spent her final three weeks.”

“I am now approaching my seventh survival anniversary and am so very happy. However, I can’t stop feeling guilty that I survived and she didn’t. It’s a strange feeling when you have gone through a similar thing with somebody so close to you, and then you get the all clear, but your best friend wasn’t so fortunate.”

emily and sarah
emily with friends

A family connection

Growing up, Emily lived in Tunbridge Wells with her family. She recalls her mum as always being an active and sociable person, right up until she was diagnosed with dementia. She would walk every evening after dinner to help digest her meal, even if it was just a short walk.

Emily’s mum had a strong connection with the Hospice because, during her working life, she volunteered as a bereavement counsellor for many years. Emily recalls that, “when it came to her final days, moving her over to the Hospice was just like going home. It felt so right straight away, and everybody was looking after her, and also looking after my dad. It just felt like the perfect place to be for the last couple of weeks.”

Emily concluded, explaining why she will be participating in Moonlight Walk: “I lost my mum and my best friend in the same year, which was pretty gruelling, and this is why I am doing the Moonlight Walk. I thought it would work quite nicely with the amount of training I would need to do. A few friends are doing it with me, so it will be a nice social event too. We can walk and put the world to rights whilst raising money for the Hospice.”

people walking at moonlight walk

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